The story behind our cards: How a painful separation became a path to greater closeness
Sometimes you only realize what's truly important when it's too late. That's how it was for me and my ex-partner. Our relationship failed – not because we didn't love each other, but because we never truly connected.
I still remember her words vividly: "I don't feel seen. I feel taken for granted! You don't appreciate me." At the time, I may have heard those words, but I didn't understand them. I was too preoccupied with myself, with my daily routine, with everything imaginable—anything but her and us. The closeness that had once been there was replaced by distance. Minor conflicts remained unresolved, feelings unspoken.
When the breakup became inevitable, reality hit me with full force. It wasn't just any relationship I'd lost. It was the person who meant the most to me. And yet, I hadn't managed to show her that.
The realization
After the breakup, I began to examine myself. I wanted to understand what had gone wrong—not just in our relationship, but also within myself. I read books, talked to friends, even a therapist. And at some point, I realized: I hadn't given her the emotional depth she longed for. I hadn't truly listened, hadn't asked the right questions, hadn't felt what was really going on with her.
I began to realize that many couples feel the same way. We often live side by side, functioning instead of feeling, and forgetting how important genuine connection is. We talk about everyday life, plans, and problems – but not about what really matters: US.
An idea is born
This realization gave rise to an idea: What if there were something that could help couples truly connect? Something that would make them pause, listen, ask questions that are never otherwise asked, and give answers that come from the depths of their hearts?
I spoke with a psychologist who helped me develop exactly these kinds of questions. Questions that encourage couples to open up on a deeper level, express their feelings, and cultivate a more conscious relationship. We tested the questions with other couples, optimized them, refined them – and finally created the cards that I (or hopefully you soon) hold in my hands.
Why these cards?
The cards are more than just a game. They are a tool for having real conversations, getting to know each other again, and rediscovering love for one another. They invite you to be honest, to laugh, to cry, and to connect in a way that is often lost in everyday life.
For me personally, they are more than just a product. They are my way of making something good out of a painful experience. And perhaps they can help other couples preserve what I have lost.
One last thought
Looking back on my relationship today, I feel gratitude. It showed me how important it is not only to love, but also to actively live and express that love. It taught me that a good relationship requires work – work that is worthwhile. When couples get together, they often stop working on each other, but that shouldn't happen.
Perhaps our cards can also help you and your partner reconnect. Because at the end of the day, what matters is not what we have, but who we have by our side – and how we are connected to that person.
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